This is a question I’ve been asked many times and it’s one that I spent years trying to figure out for myself.
It’s a question that was in my head most days while my youngest son was going through his swearing phase.
His swearing phase lasted many years and gradually became more dramatic as he explored the full scope of swearing and learned new words. His swearing was almost always directed at me and was literally in my face. How do you react when your 14 year old child calls you a “f**king bitch?
Some would regard this as a sign of my “failure” as a parent.
Many would see it as cause for immediate punishment of the child.
But I’ve always chosen peaceful and conscious parenting, so I didn’t go down the punishment path. There were no “consequences” imposed on him and I didn’t shame or shun him. I didn’t even lecture him.
Instead of punishment I applied the Golden Rule: “treat others as you would like them to treat you.” I gave to my son what I wanted to receive: respect.